I thought this might be quite an important and interesting (maybe) post to write. I feel like there is judgment cast on mums whether they decide to return to work after maternity leave or if they decide to leave work and become a stay at home mum. The most important thing to remember is that neither option is better or worse than the other. I am no better than a stay at home mum because I work and vice-versa.
Personally, I could not wait to return to work and before you cast your judgement and think that I am a terrible mother – let me explain. I, like many other mothers, suffered from post-natal depression (A little post on tips on dealing with Post-Natal Depression here). One of the main reasons that I was so down was because I didn’t feel like I was a person anymore. I felt like I was just ‘mum’ and nothing that I wanted or needed mattered anymore. It felt like everything I was doing was for everyone else and I was seriously forgetting to look after myself.
Of course, me starting my uni course helped me a lot mentally and then later starting my blog. I feel like these things gave me something just for me. Something for me to put my energy in that would make me feel accomplished.
I could not wait to go back to work and if you follow me on Twitter you will you know that I have recently gone back to work. My first day yes, of course, I was nervous – I was leaving my precious baby for a whole day but I was excited. Excited to work hard, excited to do something for me, excited to not just be mum for the day and really bloody excited to have a conversation with an adult about some other things that were not baby-related (ok, there was a little bit of baby talk and photo showing).
I am a working mum because of course I love being a mum and I adore my son more than anything in this world but, I need something more than that. I have never just wanted to be a mum – I have never wanted to be a stay at home mum. I love working and I would love a career as well as a family.
I would love to go on to have more children but, I will always want to be a working mum.